Who is He Supposed to Be?

Written By: Bethany Ellis

            As girls we have all envisioned that day when we will wear the white dress. Some of us over-think it and have planned the whole event. Others want someone else to pick the napkins; they only care about the dress and the groom…which brings us to the groom. Dress aside, that day is about joining your life and committing to another person. Is he a blurry guy in a tux? What is he like? Other than the fact that you love him, what else do you know about him?

            I ask these questions because if you don’t have any answers to them, how will you know whom to date? Obviously I can’t cover it all, and some things vary from woman to woman. However, I can give the issue a good start by looking at four things that are a MUST, for all of us.

            The first thing you need is a partner you can trust. Trust is earned. You want to find someone who keeps their promises and does what they say they will do. Now, don’t knit pick. This is not put the seat down stuff. But if lack of follow-through is consistent or if it erodes your trust, it may be time to move on. You need to be able to count on and believe the best about your partner.

            Next, find someone you can laugh with. Life can be hard and having someone who brings you joy is crucial.  Going through the world with a heavy heart saps your energy. The two of you should lighten each other’s load. If together you naturally see the humor and upside in situations, you will weather them more successfully!

            You are going to want someone who values your gifts and talents…and has taken the time to know what they are! As a couple, you should be proud and excited as you learn the capabilities of the other. You should love to watch your partner do something they do well. You both should be able and willing to affirm and compliment the other’s abilities on a daily basis.

            Lastly, does he listen to you even when it’s not pleasant? We all know we want someone who cares about our life and values the ideas that come out of our mouth. But beyond that, does he let you express yourself when you have a disagreement? He should really hear you, process your viewpoint and express his feelings on the subject. You need a spouse who is able to validate your opinion by listening even when he disagrees.

            Like I said before, this is not a complete list. It is a place to start. After you run through this list of questions, ask some of your own. Create a list of your desires and traits that you would want the man in that tux possess. It will help you in the selection process and keep you from spending your time and emotions on the wrong person.

*Notes:

**Assumptions: more pointed toward “him”

**“Loving Eyes can never see”


- Bethany Ellis, Creme de le Chic Events

Nick + Creighton

Copyright Angela Wilson Photography

Nick and Creighton Batrouney

Childish love follows the principle: "I love because I am loved."


Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved because I love."


Childish love says: "I love you because I need you."


Mature love says: "I need you because I love you.

Nick and Creighton have found mature love.

A bride and groom in their twenties can often be said to be in love, but to see a couple who have made choices full of depth and maturity is a different story all-together. These two chose with their hearts and their heads; they’ve talked through the hard stuff, and not shied away from the unknown. Those who know this couple see a love that will endure set upon a foundation that will last.

Nick and Creighton met in August of 2008 when they both joined a kickball team. They loved the fun and the interaction and were interested in each other right off. Nick noticed her smile (never more beautiful than in their wedding pictures) and decided he wanted her to smile at him. Creighton noticed him too, but wanted to start anything lasting with a good friendship. Because of that she was a bit hard-to-get as a date, so they simply played in the league and enjoyed one another’s company. No one could deny that there was a good chemistry happening between the two.

One night, when Nick was gaining the attention of another woman, and Creighton got admittedly jealous. When Nick realized what had happened, he knew the time was right to lay it all on the line. He went to her house, with flowers, and told her what he wanted to see happen between them. Creighton said that the confidence he showed was sexy; she felt pursued, honored, and knew his interest in her was honest and complete. They both said they knew very early, maybe even in that moment, that this relationship was more than ordinary. This had the makings if being “it.”

Very early in their relationship they went to North Carolina to meet and spend time with some of Nick’s close friends. This was an important step and a time of bonding for them. They realized how easily they connected and how their conversations just seemed to flow. The timing in their lives felt right to bring in this other person, who actually in many ways was similar to themselves. By the end of this trip, they knew they had found someone to love.

Over the next two years Nick started his own business and the two discussed their future. They came to love each other’s confidence and sure sense of self. Their chemistry never diminished and Creighton knew she had found that best friend for which she had been looking. The two talked out their differences, never failing to be honest and try to understand when perspectives were different.

They came from different churches, each wholeheartedly committed to their beliefs.  They did research and shared those beliefs with one another, and were able to find middle ground for themselves and their future family without ever compromising their faiths. They discussed the future of his business, finances, how to raise their children, and where they would attend church. This couple bravely faced potential obstacles and together turned them into stepping-stones.

After two years, Nick took Creighton out to dinner at Two Urban Licks. They loved this restaurant but didn’t go often, so he told her he had a Groupon to keep her from realizing it was a very special occasion. After dinner, they had a few drinks and went for a walk in Piedmont Park, which was “their spot” and where they’d met. Nick had set up a blanket, cooler, and chairs. Creighton remembers thinking, “Man the homeless people down here have gotten really fancy!” But then she recognized the cooler. It was Nick’s. He got down on one knee, Creighton did too, she was still surprised and not quite sure what was happening…and there was much crying and smiling as he asked her to marry him.  

The wedding in May was at a beautiful Orthodox church in Atlanta. Creighton looked gorgeous and classy in her strapless gown. The bride’s room was a mass of blue bridesmaid’s gowns and a flurry of excitement. The gentlemen were rallying to support Nick. They were the perfect mix of teasing and tormenting buddies and friends who supported and respected the important day for their friend. There were the usual situations; the bride’s veil had to be fixed and Nick lost his jacket – turns out, one of the guys had hidden it. Finally, it was all set and the walk began.

Though some brides may sweat, Creighton seemed calm and ready. She said the walk seemed to take forever, but she zoned in on Nick, who looked so handsome and was wearing a huge smile. He looked at her and thought, “I’m marrying that smile.” Once at the alter, the ceremony was very traditional. It incorporated both of their church experiences, in the Orthodox Church, but with Creighton’s pastor doing the readings.

Creighton described her wedding and reception as romantic and classy. The couple wanted a hometown feeling that featured the city that they love. The Atlanta skyline was visible at their reception, and the local vibe extended even to the Motown music selections. The reception had an open and comfortable feel for the new couple and their guests. Creighton said that, “The ceremony and reception went off without a hitch. I noticed no flaws and no one needed me for anything. I was free to enjoy it all!”

- Bethany Ellis, Creme de le Chic Events

 

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PHOTOGRAPHY Angela Wilson Photography

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